A lot of couples do not know where to begin to plan their wedding when they get engaged.
I would love to help you any way that I can. Here are some general guidelines that should help.
I would love to help you any way that I can. Here are some general guidelines that should help.
One of the first things you should decide on is the location and the date and time.
You need to make sure you can book the location, the reception and the
officiant on a date that is convenient for those that you want to be
in and at your ceremony as well as convenient for the officiant also.
“Get It In Writing”
Almost every reputable vendor in the wedding “industry” uses a contract for their services:
banquet halls and reception sites, photographers, DJ’s, limousine services, etc. If you don’t have a
contract with them, you have no recourse if they don’t provide exactly the services you
thought you were paying for. Make sure you also get a commitment in writing from the person
who will perform your wedding. Unfortunately, that includes churches, too. “Trust me” isn’t good enough.
I always use a contract with each couple, specifying place, date and time.
banquet halls and reception sites, photographers, DJ’s, limousine services, etc. If you don’t have a
contract with them, you have no recourse if they don’t provide exactly the services you
thought you were paying for. Make sure you also get a commitment in writing from the person
who will perform your wedding. Unfortunately, that includes churches, too. “Trust me” isn’t good enough.
I always use a contract with each couple, specifying place, date and time.
The Importance of a “Wedding Script”
I don’t know any Bride who would go to a wedding dress shop, give them a check,
tell them to “pick out a nice dress” for her, and deliver it on her wedding day at a certain
place and time. And I don’t know any Groom who would go to a jeweler, give them a check,
tell them to “pick out a couple of nice rings” for them, and deliver them on the wedding day.
However, that is what 99% of the couples who get married do in one crucial aspect of their
wedding: they tell the wedding officiant to in effect “say something nice” at their wedding ceremony.
tell them to “pick out a nice dress” for her, and deliver it on her wedding day at a certain
place and time. And I don’t know any Groom who would go to a jeweler, give them a check,
tell them to “pick out a couple of nice rings” for them, and deliver them on the wedding day.
However, that is what 99% of the couples who get married do in one crucial aspect of their
wedding: they tell the wedding officiant to in effect “say something nice” at their wedding ceremony.
They have very little “warning” in advance as to what will actually be said at their ceremony,
other than maybe the vows and ring exchange. Maybe you’ve heard some odd things yourself
at a friend’s wedding. Your wedding ceremony should say all the right things, the way you
want them said, and nothing else. The only way to ensure this is to have the
officiant provide you a written transcript of the planned ceremony in advance of your wedding.
(You may consider writing up the ceremony yourself, but it’s a lot of work, and not easy to do!)
No two weddings are exactly the same. Yours can and should be a “perfect” wedding ceremony,
which says the things you want in a beautiful and meaningful way.
which says the things you want in a beautiful and meaningful way.
Danielle M Baker
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